Spring Cleaning Your Self-Confidence

Spring Cleaning Your Self-Confidence

It can happen to the best of us, parents or teens, feeling a little down and maybe some negative self-talk is running on a loop in your mind. Maybe you’ve been getting bullied at school or at your job. It’s easy to get caught up in this loop and before you know it, your confidence is shot.

Why Is Confidence So Important?

“Once we believe in ourselves,
we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight,
or any experience that reveals the human spirit.”
~e.e. cummings

Confidence is basically knowing your strengths, knowing the value you provide to others, and being able to convey that to others through your actions. Healthy confidence is not necessarily a genetic trait, many people have to teach themselves to be confident.

Raising your confidence to healthy levels is important because it:

  • Can make your more attractive in your relationships (romantic and friendships)
  • Can make you more promote-able at work
  • Can help you face failures and handle them appropriately
  • Can make you feel better about yourself  

Alternately, people with a lack of self-confidence are crippled by:

  • Not valuing what they are capable of
  • Taking blame of things, even if they’re not the one at fault
  • Being painfully shy and reserved
  • Being overly critical of themselves to the point of neurosis
  • Getting hung up on past failures and setbacks
  • Being overly anxious over negative outcomes that haven’t even happened yet
  • Having a neurotically fearful attitude toward most things
  • being a people-pleaser, to their own detriment

A quick Google search of “how to be confident” can get you to a number of articles on the topic, but here are our tried-and-true suggestions for spring cleaning your self-confidence and building yourself back up.

How To Be Confident, The Smarties Way:

  • Take an honest self-assessment.
    If you take a good, hard look at yourself in the mirror (figuratively, of course!), you can see your flaws or where you may be lacking that’s affecting your view of yourself.
  • Take this self-assessment and turn each item into an action plan.
    Or, in other words, start fixing the things you don’t like about yourself that you’re beating yourself up for. For example, if you don’t do well at public speaking and this is something that’s affecting your confidence, take classes on how to speak better, watch YouTube videos, read books, and practice speaking in public!
  • After your self-assessment, celebrate the things you are great at or the attributes you love about yourself!
    Everyone has at least a few things that they adore about themselves. Are you great at playing guitar? Wonderful! Great in school? Celebrate that! If you build on what you’re proud of, your confidence will rise much more quickly.
  • Make it a priority to always be yourself!
    Trying to fit into someone else’s mold for you is one of the surest ways to erode self-confidence. Be yourself. And make a point of hanging around with people who love you for you! Cut out any toxic friendships and relationships you may have going on in your life.
  • Get moving!
    We always suggest physical activity. One great reason is that it gets you off of your technology and away from social media that can sometimes add to negative thoughts. Exercise is also great because it connects you with your body more and makes you feel better about yourself.
  • Keep working at it!
    Great self-confidence doesn’t come overnight, but if you keep working through these Smarties steps, you will get there!

“Self-confidence is the first requisite to great undertakings.”
~ Samuel Johnson


Smart Girl Society, Inc., is an Omaha-based nonprofit working to educate and inspire smart & confident girls, women, & families. Through educational workshops, civil outreach programs, and technology & social media research, we work with girls, parents, & educators to true authenticity on social media and in real life. We educate how to remain safe on social media and how to avoid becoming a target of sextortion. We also inspire action for students to focus on their personal brand development, leadership, educational opportunities, and healthy social skills. Interested in learning more? Check us out!